12 Strategies To Get Somebody Out Of Your Head

Say Less

Say Less

Let some time pass without saying too much about them. If you talk about them and your problems all the time, it makes it more difficult than it might have been to let them (and all the grief that comes with them) go.

Give It Time

Give It Time

It is not necessary to respond to difficult situations and people as immediately as we may feel like it is when we're emotional. That's why we over think things and go over and over what we'll say or do, in our heads. Simply allowing yourself the time to wait and see what will unfold without your immediate input will work wonders for your sense of control over a hard break-up.



Don't Play The Blame Game

Don't Play The Blame Game

You don't have to play the blame game. It might feel like you need to point the finger but ultimately, this will only prolong the negatives and the suffering. The challenge to rise above that way of thinking will be well worth it in the wash-up.

It's Your Mind

It's Your Mind

It is your mind, you know. You do have more control over it than you probably think you do. Be conscious of who you are and your thoughts, as well as how you want to feel - which (I'm guessing) is happy! If it's control you want to feel and control that you feel like you've lost, start off by acknowledging that your mind is powerful.



The Biggest Problem

The Biggest Problem

You can try and change all the little things and fix them all in to place to try and get your happiness back but remember, whether you like it or not, the biggest problem is your anger. Address this first and you've solved half of that puzzle in one go. I know you don't feel like it but it's time to exercise or meditate or anything that will help your anger subside.

Your Anger Will Eat You

Your Anger Will Eat You

Okay, so we're kind of furthering that previous point here, but the best thing you can do is realize why anger is bad for you. The answer is simple; because you can't think straight when you're angry. Nobody can, and that's why you need to address the issue.



You Don't Need To Figure Them Out

You Don't Need To Figure Them Out

One of your first instincts might be to try and figure out why they did what they did. Naturally, when you're playing that game, you're probably going to start accepting that their actions were as a result of something you did or didn't do. That's not true and it can only bring you pain.

Instead of concerning yourself with trying to figure the other person out, pay that attention to yourself and let yourself begin healing.

Don't Believe Your Thoughts

Don't Believe Your Thoughts

Normally, we'd be encouraging you to believe in yourself, etc. But this is the situation where perhaps it's best that you don't believe everything you think. If you're hurt, you're going to be thinking the worst and you'll end up imagining thoughts and reasons that simply aren't there.

At its most tangibly examined, this type of behavior might see you react to something you're interpreted negatively, only to see it exacerbate your problems. Seriously, that exercise or meditation can help immeasurably where this is concerned! Try it!



Ask How You Can Grow

Ask How You Can Grow

When all is said and done, life experiences are their to be learned from, especially the bad and sad ones. This is the best time to be a better you whilst also being careful not to be too hard on yourself. You get to make a choice: you can let it make you bitter with baggage, or you can simply just chalk it down to life experience and move on. Which one is more likely to bring you happiness in the future?

Your Heart

Your Heart

It's going to sound a little cliche and a bit too fuzzy... however, remember that you have to love yourself through it all!



You Can't Go Back In Time

You Can't Go Back In Time

Every single person who has ever walked the Earth (and probably some animals too) has had a regret or two. It's totally natural and simply just a fact of life. However, there is absolutely zilch that you can do to go back and change what has already happened. Of course, we know that already logically, but a broken heart and weary mind conspire to make us feel we can. Remember to look forward more than behind.

Forgive

Forgive

Of course, this might be the hardest thing to do of the whole lot, but it's also going to be one of the most beneficial. Once you've learned to not let them make you angry, the next step is to forgive them - yes, even if they don't really deserve it. It's you we're trying to make happy - nobody else.