5 Habits That Are Making You Miserable

You Make Assumptions

You Make Assumptions

When we get a little down, we often tend to stay inside our own heads a bit too much. This causes us to think and think about a situation and we begin to make assumptions about things that simply aren't true. This negative state of mind will have us believing that a situation is worse than it actually is, thereby keeping us down.

Get out of your head and do something about your situation.

 

You Seek Approval From Others

You Seek Approval From Others

Its natural that we should want approval from others. It's how we were trained to learn right from wrong in infancy and we (most of us - the good ones) would do things in the hope that our parents would be proud. In adulthood, however, you have to trust yourself more. Hopefully, you still have your parents and can trust them for their opinions, but it's a great idea to trust your own opinion above those of others. Especially, people who don't really matter.

Trying to make other people happy will only bring you down. Leave that in the past!



You Compare Yourself To Others

You Compare Yourself To Others

It's natural to aspire to something. People we meet tend to affect us in certain ways, occasionally becoming a symbol of those aspirations. Whilst that in itself might be a healthy thing, especially if they turn out to be a good mentor, just as often comparing yourself to someone else will make you miserable.

A tangible example is when you go to the gym and become discouraged by the dude next to you curling twice what you can. This type of thing goes on all through life whether it be at the gym, what's in your bank, what you look like (especially what you look like!) and the truth is, if it's happiness you're chasing, it's just about the most counter-productive thing you can do.

The only person worth comparing yourself to is the person you were when you woke up this morning.

You Procrastinate

You Procrastinate

Sitting around doing not much of anything and passing the time doing nothing much of any use, simply because it puts off the task at hand, is useless. We know that, logically. But many of us do it anyway.

That useless feeling builds frustration which only makes you more miserable. Tackle what needs tackling and do it now. There's happiness and satisfaction on the other side.

 



You're Indecisive

You're Indecisive

We know why you're indecisive; you don't want to make the wrong decision. The truth is that nobody wants to make the wrong choice. But the only decision worse than making the wrong one is to not make a decision at all. You lose control and things go nowhere. Your life has no hope of going where it needs to go if you don't actively involve yourself in doing something about it. Even if you do make what is the "wrong" decision at the time, it helps you learn adn grow so that next time you'll be better informed to make the right one.

Just choose.