5 Ways To Boost Your Self-Esteem And Keep It

Forget About Generic Positive Affirmation

Forget About Generic Positive Affirmation

Positive affirmations are all good and well if you actually believe them, but if not, then they're are quite literally pointless. In fact, should you reject them on a personal level, they can only make you feel worse, not better.

Basically, they need to be believable and for people with a tendency for low self-esteem they usually aren't.

Take Not Of Your Strengths

Take Not Of Your Strengths

Identifying your strengths is a great step towards giving yourself a self-esteem boost. Whether you feel it naturally or not (and perhaps you don't since you feel the need for a self-esteem boost), there are things that you are naturally good at.

The pleasure and legitimate affirmation that doing something you happen to do well gives you should not be undersold.



Now, Demonstrate It

Now, Demonstrate It

Okay, so now you've identified the things that you are good at (or maybe just one thing in particular to start with) it's time to let that work for you.

Let's say that you're quite good at an artistic pursuit like painting or writing. Do some. Maybe you're really good at organizing things. Maybe you could put these skills to work by lending them to a cause of some sort - there's nothing like helping someone else out to give you a feeling of self-worth.

Get Used To Positive Feeback

Get Used To Positive Feeback

Even after you've managed to get yourself in the habit of using the things you're good at, you might still find it hard to tolerate the positive feedback of others. Even if you know deep down that they are right and that you are worthy, perhaps you've gotten so used to rejecting it that it still feels really uncomfortable, and too much so to accept.

This is a very important part of the process, however, and should be worked on. Just try saying "thank you" instead of shying away from it. It will feel uncomfortable at first but soon you'll be well on the way to feeling much better about accepting positive feedback for the good things you do. You'll need this step in order to get that boost.



Now, It's Time To Self-Affirm

Now, It's Time To Self-Affirm

Once you've accepted the affirmation of others, it is time to be able to look at yourself and feel proud and accomplished. It really is okay to feel pleased and satisfied with yourself, and that it the final step towards that self-esteem boost.

Sometimes, we tend to feel like we're over-inflating our ego or even being arrogant by telling ourselves we did good, but that's the trap someone with low self-esteem tends to fall in to. It's time to let that way of thinking go and allow both others, and yourself, to be proud of you and provide affirmation that you can accept on the way to a healthier self-esteem level.